- You can’t date a jerk and expect to turn them into a good person. Jerks are fully committed to being unpleasant. Those brief moments of tenderness they give you are designed to trip you up and give you false hope. It’s best to stay away altogether.
- The rumors are true: your metabolism does slow down as you get older! That means if you’re still eating whatever you want, there’s a good chance you’ll start to gain an awkward amount of weight. It won’t be too drastic but your clothes will start to hang differently on your body and you’ll feel an overall feeling of unattractiveness. Start to be conscious of what you eat and strive to live a healthier lifestyle if you want to get your teen body back. (Let’s be real though, that might not ever come back.)
- You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. You’re undergoing so many personal and professional changes that there’s bound to be some casualties along the way. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason.
- You’ll be jealous of everyone who’s more successful than you. That’s okay. Just transfer that jealousy into something productive, like working really hard so you can one day eclipse them and make them feel jealous of YOU.
- You’ll question every decision you make and never feel completely certain that you made the right choice. It’s pointless to wonder though. You’re here now so you might as well make it be the right decision.
- You’re going to give your heart to a few people who don’t deserve it. Then, one day you’ll come to your senses and ask them to give it back.
- You’ll see your parents get older. You’ll come home during Christmas break and see new lines developing on their faces. One day it’ll just hit you that your parents are old and going to die. There’s nothing you can do about it, besides treat them with kindness and visit as much as your budget permits.
- You’ll have a boss who makes you feel like you’re nothing. It doesn’t have to be in a Devil Wears Prada way. The cruelty can be much more subtle. Don’t let them get to you though. They have no idea who the hell you really are and you’re probably going to have their job someday so…
- Doing drugs is fun until it’s not, until it starts affecting your life in negative ways and leaves you feeling guilty and wrecked. If that happens, you should stop doing them.
- You’re going to puke in public. It’s fine. No one cares. Just puke.
- You’ll know how to make twenty dollars last an entire week because you spent almost all of your paycheck on groceries at Whole Foods and drunk cab rides. This lesson in frugality will serve you well.
- You’re going to betray your convictions. You’re going to feel shame. You’re going to continue to put yourself in situations that aren’t good for you. And then, slowly but surely, it will become less frequent. It might not ever go away completely but it won’t be as bad. In the meantime, stop shame spiraling about it. It gets you nowhere.
- Loving yourself is hard. Hating yourself is harder.
- You’re going to hook up with someone who you would never touch in the daylight sober. Just don’t freak out too much about it. Consider it to be your good deed for the day.
- You’re going to have people in your life who are toxic. They may say that they love you, they may say that they have your back, but they don’t. Get rid of them.
- You’ll have moments with someone that are so intense, it’ll feel like you’ve been electrocuted back to life. You’ll hold on to these moments for a long time. They’ll give you hope when you’re going through the motions.
- You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter.
- You’ll enter your twenties as a fashion disaster and (hopefully) leave them looking fantastic. If you don’t know how to put yourself together by then, I really don’t know what to tell you.
- You’ll realize that the Internet can be a cruel son of a bitch but, you know, www.whatever.com.
- So much of what you think matters doesn’t actually matter at all. It’s kind of rude. Like, thanks for making me believe in things that are ultimately so inconsequential, you jerk.
- You’ll treat someone terribly. Whether it to be a lover or your friend, there’ll be someone whose feelings you take for granted. We focus too much on whether or not someone is hurting us. The reality is that we might actually be the one who’s hurting someone.
- Doing “grown-up things” doesn’t make you a grown up. Shopping for housewares, buying a plant, embracing domesticity — these things don’t create maturity. If you’re still a baby who hasn’t figured things out, you’ll remain a baby, no matter how many times you pay your rent on time.
- Don’t force yourself into loving anyone. If it’s not working in the beginning, it’s probably not going to work ever.
- You are so lucky to have everything that you have. Stop crying about an unreturned text message and get some perspective.
- Don’t go too long without having sex. Ever.
Iphone Mainia
If your in love with your Iphone as much as me, this probably means your in love with capturing this wild world with Instagram. Combine Instagram and Video together and you get Viddy. Its short form videos to play with on the weekend. Pick different effects like Vintage, Solarize, 3D, Retro & More! There’s even music/sound to choose from when picking these effects. Very entertaining and very fun! I don’t suggest using this for big moments like getting engaged but all simple moments that are in between. So here is my first Viddy I’d like to share with everyone from my lovely SoCal Home!
http://www.viddy.com/video/3b5964e4-cd26-440a-9c14-650cc847893a
Also, these Castagram‘s are pretty amazing as well. Perfect gift idea!
Lover.ly
In Love? Engaged? Planning a Wedding? Fairly tale weddings do come true and it starts by planning it digitally!
Move over Pinterest… Introducing the new start up company called Lover.ly: Wedding Planing Made Simple!
The site is searchable by keywords, colors, categories, featured, popular images and more. Users can go to the original blog where the item was posted and purchase the item. More than 100,000 images are on the site and indexed to organize each photo in the proper categories.
Wedding enthusiasts can create bundles, or groups, to organize their favorite wedding stuff. They can name their own bundles or can love an image that will go into the love bundle. Bundles are private unless the user chooses to make them public.
Enjoy Lovebirds!!
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Connected, but alone?
For my love of technology and how society has socially changed. I think this transcript and TED talk by Sherry Turkle is inspirational, true, and interesting on so many levels. I would love to share this with everyone.
Oh and how cute are these Iphone Cupcakes?!
My favorite part is the end:
“Technology is making a bid to redefine human connection – how we care for each other,how we care for ourselves – but it’s also giving us the opportunity to affirm our values and our direction. I’m optimistic. We have everything we need to start. We have each other. And we have the greatest chance of success if we recognize our vulnerability. That we listenwhen technology says it will take something complicated and promises something simpler.
So in my work, I hear that life is hard, relationships are filled with risk. And then there’s technology – simpler, hopeful, optimistic, ever-young. It’s like calling in the cavalry. An ad campaign promises that online and with avatars, you can “Finally, love your friends love your body, love your life, online and with avatars.” We’re drawn to virtual romance, to computer games that seem like worlds, to the idea that robots, robots, will someday be our true companions. We spend an evening on the social network instead of going to the pub with friends.
But our fantasies of substitution have cost us. Now we all need to focus on the many, many ways technology can lead us back to our real lives, our own bodies, our own communities, our own politics, our own planet. They need us. Let’s talk about how we can use digital technology, the technology of our dreams, to make this life the life we can love.“
xoxo
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Make It Count
“Travel is the one thing that you buy that will make you richer”
Nike’s #MakeItCount Fuel Band Hash Tag is viral and inspirational to say the least.
Props to Casey Neistat on spending a budget worth watching.
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Maya Brenner Jewelry
This may be old news, but it’s news to me! Introducing Maya Brenner.
Show your hometown pride in a Maya Brenner signature State Necklace, and the best part is that the diamond can be placed anywhere along the state border! Her jewelry can be seen on stars like Katy Perry, Rachel Bilson, and Guiliana Rancic.
Loving the Asymmetrical Necklace and Mini Letter Stud Earrings too!!
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Entreprenuer? A rant from the heart, hip and head
Entrepreneur Mind Set?
You must listen to one of Jersey’s finest, Gary Vaynerchuk. With his dream of buying the Jet’s Professional Football Team one day… not only is he a wine expert, but he’s a social media brand expert. He’s totally one of God’s hustlers here on Earth! Love this guy!
Gary wrote Crush It! Why Now is the Time to Cash in on your Passion, in October 2009. In the first weeks of its release it climbed to #1 on the Amazon Best Seller list for Web Marketing books. It also opened at #2 on the New York Times bestseller list and #7 on the Wall Street Journal Bestseller List.
The book encourages people to determine what truly makes them happy and pursue monetizing around it on the internet. It argues that because of recent social and technological trends the cost of producing content has been driven low enough that passion, knowledge, and effort, which the book calls “sweat equity”, are now all one needs to build a brand and business.
A rant from the heart, hip and head…
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Favorite Quote!
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Coca Cola Hair
Are you desperate enough to have curly, wavy luscious locks?
Desperate enough to use a can of Coke?
Yup. Coca Cola!
For perfect curls, even if your hair is straight,
leave an open can of Coke out overnight. Then pour it over your long hair and let it sit for a few minutes. Rinse thoroughly.
Who would have thought?!
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“Pass On” Poem by Michael Lee
We all deal with loss of a loved one in different ways. I’ve never really considered myself a poetry fan, but this particular piece grabbed me instantly. Therefore, I’m going to prep you for something very artistic and deep to those who aren’t ready to read/watch what is below. (serious tone)
“Pass On”
When searching for the lost remember 8 things.
1.
We are vessels.
We are rooms.
We are so much less important than the things inside of us.
We are circuit boards
swallowing the electricity of life upon birth.
It wheels through us creating every moment,
the pulse of a story, the soft hums of labor and love.
In our last moment it will come rushing
from our chests and be given back to the wind.
When we die. We go everywhere.
2.
Newton said energy is neither created nor destroyed.
In the halls of my middle school I can still hear
my friend Stephen singing his favorite song.
In the gymnasium I can still hear
the way he dribbled that basketball like it was a mallet
and the earth was a xylophone.
With an ear to the Atlantic I can hear
the Titanic’s band playing her to sleep,
Music. Wind. Music. Wind.
If you listen to the wind and don’t hear a thousand years of music, you’re not listening hard enough.
3.
The day my grandfather passed away there was the strongest wind,
I could feel his gentle hands blowing away from me.
I knew then they were off to find someone
who needed them more than I did.
On average 1.8 people on earth die every second.
There is always a gust of wind somewhere.
4.
The day Stephen was murdered
everything that made us love him rushed from his knife wounds
as though his chest were an auditorium
his life an audience leaving single file.
Every ounce of him has been
wrapping around this world in a windstorm
I have been looking for him for 9 years.
5.
Our bodies are nothing more than hosts to a collection of brilliant things.
When someone dies I do not weep over polaroids or belongings,
I begin to look for the lightning that has left them,
I feel out the strongest breeze and take off running.
6.
After 9 years I found Stephen.
I passed a basketball court in Boston
the point guard dribbled like he had a stadium roaring in his palms
Wilt Chamberlain pumping in his feet,
his hands flashing like x-rays,
a cross-over, a wrap-around
rewinding, turn-tables cracking open,
camera-men turn flash bulbs to fireworks.
Seven games and he never missed a shot,
his hands were luminous.
Pulsing. Pulsing.
I asked him how long he’d been playing,
he said nine 9 years
7.
The theory of six degrees of separation
was never meant to show how many people we can find,
it was a set of directions for how to find the people we have lost.
I found your voice Stephen,
found it in a young boy in Michigan who was always singing,
his lungs flapping like sails
I found your smile in Australia,
a young girls teeth shining like the opera house in your neck,
I saw your one true love come to life on the asphalt of Boston.
8.
We are not created or destroyed,
we are constantly transferred, shifted and renewed.
Everything we are is given to us.
Death does not come when a body is too exhausted to live
Death comes, because the brilliance inside us can only be contained for so long.
We do not die. We pass on, pass on the lightning burning through our throats.
when you leave me I will not cry for you
I will run into the strongest wind I can find
and welcome you home.
